1. Take your college search seriously. When others realize your attitude and sense your maturity, they’ll be anxious to help.

2. Don’t wait for or expect these key people to do for you what you can do yourself.

3. If you need one-on-one time to discuss specific issues, ask when the key person is available. Then be punctual, whether the discussion is over the phone or in person.

4. Write down all your questions or issues ahead of time.

5. Be a good listener, but if you don’t understand something, say so. This process you’re involved in is not simple, and there are no dumb questions.

6. If you disagree with advice, speak up. Expressing yourself in a respectful manner may move both of you forward and result in a better decision for you.

Aside from your parents, counselor, and some teachers, other key people will emerge. You might find support from a school or recreational league coach, an extracurricular activity advisor, your principal, a relative, family friend, mentor, employer, or perhaps someone affiliated with your place of worship.

These people won’t show up with “I’m here to help” tattooed on their foreheads, though. Rather, the relationship will evolve as you show respect, interest, and commitment to whatever you are doing and the key person takes a special interest in you. Then you’ll find yourself turning to that person in search of advice.